Monday, March 28, 2011

I'm not sure what to write anymore

I thought I'd write a little Hello post to all of you but somehow words are few and hard to find.

There was a lovely turnout for my father's funeral, lots of his friends from the business world, telling "Bob" anecdotes. It meant so much to be with his friends and hear how respected and beloved he was.

My father had told me he wanted his girlfriend to be able to remain in his house for six months after he passed away, so that she had time to regain her equilibrium and move to her property she has in another state.

Well ... she's decided to leave the Friday after Easter!!!


So I'm pretty much bonkers over here, between being heartbroken and grieving, little (!) sleep, having to visit lawyers, etc., I'm now having to pick the girlfriends brain for answers to things I need to know before she leaves.

You'll find me curled up into a ball and rocking in the corner ...

I've begun going through the stuff in the house ... my mom and dad never threw anything away, so it's a slow, memory-laden, sorting out and untangling, mess, er, task. The good news is that some missing family movies were finally found. YIPPIE!

If you're still out there, a big thank you for hanging in there with me and I hope this finds you all well and happy! Hoping I can catch up with you soon and hear all of your news.


  1. it takes time, don't be hard on yourself. Be glad the girlfriend is moving on, she could of hung on and they would of been worse to deal with. i understand about emptying a parents home, it is tough luckily my cousin came from out of town once month to help me and I took my time. think of it as a treasure hunt but I know you will be flooded back with memories, hopefully great ones......

  2. Hi Sally! I tried to email you, but the internet wouldn't let me. :) I am thinking about you, and I know how hard all this is. You hang in there, and eat chocolate whenever you feel like it! xoxo Pam

  3. Unless you have a huge reason for a deadline - just slow down and enjoy the memories, take a deep breath and soak it all up. There's always another day, and you need to take care of YOU, too! Thinking of you and praying for your stress to decrease. Mourning is a process that takes as long as you need. Sandi

  4. Befuddled...probably part of your vocab while rocking in the corner eating lots of chocolates if you want to.

    There's a saying during times like this, don't make any major decisions...on anything. Take your time with whatever...


  5. I cannot imagine having the sorrow and the brunt of the legal/life lived details to have to sift through. How much it all must be. I agree with your other caring readers that you should take all the time you need. And share whatever you want/whenever you can because the best thing about your blog is you. much love, Jenny

  6. Hugs to you, Sally! I'm glad that the funeral provided you with some comfort. And having your father's girlfriend leave sooner than expected might be for the best after all, giving you the time you need to sift through all of those memories undisturbed. Take your time with it and take care of yourself.

  7. Hi Sally, yes I agree with everyone, girlfriend gone ( at least no hassle there, she could have said she was never gonna leave!) Take your time by all means...There are estate sale people that will handle the whole thing for you when you are ready, pricing selling sorting etc. you give them a percentage....It’s a common way of dealing with it. Just make sure you get out the things you want to keep, they take care of the rest..

  8. Hello Sally, just checking in and saying hello and sending you love. Jenny